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Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is coming up this Saturday.  It seems to me that this is becoming more and more of a commercial venture every year (a bit like Christmas and Easter) and that it is very far removed from it’s original 3rd century Roman origins.  The Catholic church recognises at least three Catholic saints named Valentine (or Valentinus) who were martyred (put to death for their Christian beliefs) History contends that one of these saints fell in love with a young girl, possibly his jailers daughter, and that the night before he was executed he sent her a letter signed ‘from your Valentine’.  He was executed the next day – February 14th.

Valentine’s Day greetings can be traced back to the Middle Ages and written Valentine’s began to appear after 1400. From the mid 17th century in Great Britain, Valentine’s Day was celebrated and by the middle of the 18th century it was common for friends and lovers to exchange gifts or handwritten notes.

Giving cards and chocolates became popular around the mid 1800’s and that tradition continues today, along with the tradition of giving flowers, usually red roses, with red being the colour traditionally associated with Valentine’s Day and love in general. Valentine’s Day cards were also meant to be sent anonymously. {SOURCE}

Flowers and chocolates are nice but it doesn't mean he doesn't love you if you don't get them.
Flowers and chocolates are nice but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you if you don’t get them.                       {IMAGE CREDIT}

 

So is all the hype now associated with Valentine’s Day worth it?  My thoughts are this……if you are in a relationship, it is lovely to be made to feel special by receiving flowers or chocolates or going out to dinner somewhere.  But I think having to higher expectations of your partner can leave you feeling disappointed and this disappointment can sometimes lead to arguments and a certain degree of bitterness.  Not everyone is a born romantic.  Plus spending a lot of money on flowers and chocolates does not necessarily mean that someone loves you more than someone who does not buy those things.  And why just reserve romantic gestures for one day of the year?  Surely if you are in love with someone they are worthy of special attention all the time?

Mr B, is not particularly romantic, although I did receive some lovely things from him when we were first going out and we do make an effort to go out for dinner or do something else special on Valentine’s Day but only if we are able to.  Last year we spent the morning wandering around Seaworld and then went out for lunch, before collecting the kids from school. But we also make the effort to do that throughout the year if we can – not just on Valentine’s Day.

Mr B and I have been together for almost 19 years now.  I consider myself very lucky that we have an excellent relationship and that he still thinks to tell me that he loves me, and even if he doesn’t say it all the time, I can see it in his eyes.

Love him everyday.
Love him everyday. {IMAGE SOURCE}

So if your boyfriend/partner/husband doesn’t go all out for Valentine’s Day don’t be disappointed. Sometimes it’s the little gestures in life that mean the most, not the big showy ones.  And remember that if you feel obligated to make a gesture, then it is probably not the right thing to be doing.  Love should be genuine and spontaneous, not done out of obligation or because society dictates that that is the way it should be.  Celebrate being in love with someone special because you want to, not because you have to.

 

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